If anything can take me out of my posting rut, it’s this article from The New Yorker. Ian Parker brings to light many things related to the Tyler Clementi suicide case and his roommate Dharun Ravi in particular. While I was never really sure what kind of person Ravi was, this article certainly confirms he is an asshole. He’s a prick in the same vein as a pre-reformed Tucker Max. He sounds like the person who’d call himself an asshole before you even had the chance to. He prides himself on being an insensitive dick. He finds other people to be beneath him for silly, trivial, and materialistic reasons. We’ve all met the type. The sad thing is, he probably doesn’t even realize how much his insensitive comments and actions hurt people. I’m not psychologist either, but this is the impression I get.
I also know it’s not good to judge people, and I try my hardest not to, but the presented evidence makes it all too easy. Ravi IMs “FUCK MY LIFE / He’s gay,” and “If gay people were like carter, there wouldnt b a problem with gay hatred / Its the fags like this guy that just cause all sorts of trouble” — as if there’s a “good” versus “bad” kind of gay. He judges Clementi for being born in January, using Yahoo Mail, liking violins, and concludes with “Dude I hate poor people.” I guess Ravi and Mitt Romney have something in common.
Please read it when you get the change. Sure it’s a bit lengthy for an internet audience, but it’s well worth the effort. You really get a sense as to what kind of a person Tyler Clementi was, and still is to so many people. It sheds to light so many interesting things about the case including more previously unreleased IM conversations between Ravi and his friends and Clementi’s confessions to internet message boards and his high school orchestra buddy.
When you’re done, also check out Tyler’s older brother James Clementi’s piece for Out Magazine entitled “Letters to My Brother”.
Anonymous: Female. Pan. Can we get some lesbian sex 101?
I would love to offer you an introductory course into the art of Sapphic Love, but experience in said art is limited to the stereotypical “I was drunk and in college and made out with a girl” knowledge. Therefore, I am up to receiving contributions from any willing participants.
Kind readers, send me your own advice because I need help. I don’t know everything, which is why I have Mathieu and Andrew, but I don’t think they’d be very helpful either. Please send email an with any ideas or insight on lesbian sex to christine[at]its-just-sex[dot]net. I’ll post them here in a collective entry for all to share and enjoy. I only ask that you write in complete sentences because this isn’t Twitter, and I am not limited to 160 characters. Include your tumblr url if you would like a link, or you can also remain anonymous.
And I supposed I could ask my lesbian mom if I get desperate, but even I’m not comfortable with that.
Have you ever watched PSAs from the 1950s? They have delightful music, a narrater, and usually no one talking. I’ve posted a charming menstruation video before, and now I share with you the classic gem “Boys Beware.” You meet Ralph, the sick homosexual who shares a striking resemblance to John Waters, and Jimmy, the silly teenager who doesn’t know any better. Remember, children, “no one ever knows when the homosexual is about.”
I’m definitely more of a Daily Show kind of gal rather a than Colbert Report, but Stephen certainly knows how to handle the satire with utter perfection. I’m glad he was able to survive coming out as a heterosexual white man to his left-handed Hispanic gay parents (lo siento).
Anonymous: 20 years old-Bi Curious-sexual status: virgin im not sure what i like men or women. i think i like both of them. is it common for men to be bi sexual? im not being greedy, am i? ps i love your post
Science has proved bisexual men are real, so yes, while bisexual men might not be the majority, they are certainly not uncommon. In my younger less-educated days, I used to think bisexuals were greedy. They were having their cake and eating it too. Now I know better, and being bi doesn’t make someone selfish, spoiled, or greedy. Human beings are fluid with their sexuality, and it’s never black and white. While I can’t tell you if you’re bi or not, I can encourage you to test the waters. You’ll never know if you like tacos or sausages until you try them.
Anonymous: Female. Lesbian. Virgin. Do I need protection for lesbian sex? If so, what kind do you reccomend and how do I use it? I read your post about oral, by the way. Thanks for the resource blog, I love it!
Don’t think a lack of dick makes you’re immune to STDs and STIs. Dental dams are ideal if your partner is menstruating, has a yeast infection, or is suffering from an STI, but you still want to go down on her. If you are sharing dildos and vibrators, you run the risk of cross-contamination of STIs and STDs as well. Make sure you wash your toys throughly with warm water and antibacterial soap before and after each use. If you’re too hot and heavy and into the moment to get up and wash things, then put a condom over the toy and change it before you place it into a different person and/or orifice.
If you are going to do some digital anal play, I highly recommend placing your fingers inside a condom beforehand (this advice is for everyone, not just lesbians). The rectal tissue is extremely delicate and can tear easily. The rectal canal also covered in bacteria and poop. Covering your fingers will provide a barrier from this bacteria and also keep your partner safe from long fingernails clawing at their sphincter. Of course, use plenty of lube when you’re conducting anal play too.
Now onto fisting. If you are concerned about infection because you have open wounds on your hands and/or your partner has an STD/STI, get all medical on them and use a latex glove before you start the fisting. Of course you’ll need lots and lots of lube because a) latex gloves don’t come lubricated like condoms and b) fisting always needs lots of lube. For those unsure how to fist or don’t even know what the activity entails, check out this awesome article on The Frisky.
June is LGBT Pride Month, but do you know why? On June 28, 1969, the police raided a New York City gay bar called Stonewall Inn. Unlike previous raids, this one involved massive protest by the homosexual community and them fighting back against police brutality. The Stonewall Riots marked the beginning of the Gay Rights Movement.
PBS’ American Experience recently aired a documentary on the historic event called “Stonewall Uprising”. The program interviews those at the club during the raid, a former NYPD officer, city councilman, and other historic figures. I recommend anyone watch it. It shows how far America has come since 1969 as far as homosexuality and tolerance is concerned. While there is still much to do, it’s amazing how to look back and see how far the United States has progressed.
