Anonymous: 18.M. So when a condom leaves a ring at the base of the penis does that mean the condom is too tight (These are regular sized condoms) And if it is too tight, will that affect my sexually performance?
Once again, another answer provided from the male perspective by Mathieu.
Honestly that’s not a bad thing, condoms should be on the tight side. I suppose what you’ll have to guage for yourself is the depth of the indentation. If it feels like you’re strangling your member by wearing a condom, then you need to go up a size. Keep in mind that condoms are designed to stay on during vigorous sessions of humping, love making, rampant fornication or canoodling. However, if you feel that the condom is restricting the flow of blood, then by all means go buy a larger brand. My initial thoughts, however, are that you’re a girthy guy and that the condom is just doing it’s job.
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Oral Contraceptive / The Pill
Part 3 in my ongoing contraceptive series.
Ah, the pill, a well-trusted and popular form of birth control. A pack of oral contraceptives consists of 21 pills with hormones (progesterone and estrogen) and 7 placebos. During the last week of your pack, you have your period. How do these magic perscriptions work at preventing pregnancy? Simple, it tricks your body into thinking it’s pregnant. By doing this, you don’t ovulate and your cervical mucus thickens. If taken regularly at the same time everyday, the pill is over 99% effective. With typical use, it is 92% to 97% effective.
Oral contraceptives also have some bonus side effects. I am one of the unlucky persons who suffers from terrible menstrual cramps. These would cause me to vomit and sometimes even miss school. Once I got on the pill, these cramps disappeared, and my life has benefited greatly. It also can potentially give you a lighter flow, lessen PMS, and subside acne.
And as with any other medication, it has some possible negative side effects. These include weight gain (though one of my friends only gained weight in her breasts), headaches, nausea, and mood swings.
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And now Part 2 in my ongoing contraceptive series.
Depo-Provera / Birth Control Shot
If you are a forgetful person when it comes to taking your birth control pill, then you might want to consider the Depo-Provera shot. It’s a hormone-based form of contraception that releases a high level of progestin, thus causing your ovaries to stop releasing eggs. The shot is administered by a health care provider every three months and is 99.7% effective in preventing pregnancy. It does not protect against STDs and STIs like HIV/AIDS.
Of course, as with any form of hormonal birth control, the shot does have its fair share of side effects. These include possible weight gain, light bleeding or spotting, a lack of menstruating, headaches, weight gain, and depression. When you’re on the pill, you can just stop taking it if you experience such negative side effects. If you afflicted by these symptoms while on the shot, then you’re stuck suffering for the entire three month period.
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In the hopes of further sex educating my readers, I’m going to post a series of contraceptive options. Be prepared to learn fun facts, proper usage, and methods you might have not even considered.
Dental Dam / Vertically Cut Condom
Want to give a female oral sex, but she’s on her period or suffering an STI with open sores? Want to give someone a rim job and lick that asshole dry but know poop comes out of it? Try a dental dam. These sheets of latex provide a barrier between your mouth and the orifice you are pleasuring, yet are still thin enough for your partner to feel the sensations. You can even find some fruit flavored. Most sex stores (and Amazon) carry these delightful treats, but it’s very unlikely you’ll find them next to the condoms at a drug store. Don’t let that deter you, friends! They can be made at home by simply cutting a condom vertically. However, do not use saran wrap thinking it’s an easy substitution. It and other kitchen plastic wrap actually have tiny holes in order to ventilate food during microwaving.
No matter which product you use, make sure you only use one side of the dental dam, and be careful not touch the bottom side if your partner has an STI. Stretch the plastic using both hands and place it on top of the orifice. Either you or your partner can hold it down in place, and then perform your tongue flicking magic. Once finished, throw it away and have your post orgasm cigarette/glass of wine/nap/cuddling session/etc. (although I do not condone smoking).
If used during rimming, you will also be protecting yourself from getting a stomach infection (yes, from poopy bacteria).
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Anonymous
Is there a way to tell if you are pregnant or not before you miss a period? I'm starting to feel anxious and honestly don't know that I can wait another week to see if my period comes.
(I would have gotten Plan B if I had a concrete reason to think I was pregnant. We were using a condom, but I had missed my pill that night and I'm feeling extremely bloated and it's making me paranoid.)
Unfortunately, the only way you can tell you’re pregnant is with a pregnancy test. Grab one at the drug store. If comes out negative and you’re still worried, then go to the doctor and get one there. I wish I could be of more help, but that’s all there is to it.
Depending on your brand of birth control, you may also be able to take a higher dosage and turn it into a homemade Plan B. Check out this chart and see if yours qualifies.
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Anonymous
Female, 18, Straight
I was wondering what pregnancy symptoms would be discernable when you are on the pill. I've been on the pill for three years, getting my period every three months. So I'm constantly afraid I am pregnant because some symptoms are the same when you are on the pill (water retention, sleepiness, etc).
Are you on a type of birth control like Seasonale? It’s a kind that allows a woman to only menstruate four times a year during usage. If you aren’t, I would suggest consulting your doctor and switching brands. Getting a monthly period offers some women a sense of peace they are not pregnant, and it obviously does for you as well. However, if you are taking the pill regularly and at the same time everyday, then you have no reason to think you are pregnant.
And common symptoms of pregnancy can include breast tenderness, fatigue, morning sickness, mood swings, the constant need to pee, and weight gain.
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Anonymous
If you're using a condom, is it always necessary to be on the pill too?
Female, bisexual
The pill is most effective against preventing unwanted pregnancy when you take it at the same time everyday. If you’re a forgetful person, then it’s best to use condoms as an additional backup. The pill also doesn’t protect you against STDs. Condoms are the best preventer of those nasty buggers if you want to be sexually active.
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which is better for a 16 year old girl: NuvaRing or The Pill?
I'm sexually active and am kind of skeeved out by the idea of having something inside of me for 3 weeks [NuvaRing] and don't want my boyfriend to feel it during sex or have it fall out.
thanks!
The NuvaRing is designed to not fall out or be felt during intercourse, and there is no reason to be skeeved by having it inside your vaginal canal for three weeks. If you use tampons, they can be in you for up to eight hours and penises certainly aren’t as sanitary as sterile medical devices prescribed by a doctor meant to prevent pregnancy.
Your own sense of responsibility should be the deciding factor when choosing either of these methods. If used perfectly, meaning your birth control pill is taken at the same time everyday, then it is 99% effective against preventing unwanted pregnancy. If you are a “typical use” kind of girl, meaning you don’t remember to take it at the same time, then it is 95% effective against preventing pregnancy. Since the ring requires no daily pill popping, there is no typical use, and it is always 99% effective against preventing unwanted pregnancies.
However, the ring is the most expensive option between the two. I don’t know if your health insurance covers it (or if you are insuranced), but average cost is $35-$40 a month, whereas a generic version of the pill is usually on $10 with insurance.
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Anonymous
Heyy, well me and my bf been having sex alot lately, but sometimes we get so into it we forget to put a condom on. And im not on birth control. So is it ok if he pulls it out before he comes? Or am i risking it?
No it’s not, and you are risking it. Put on the condom as soon as he gets hard and/or get on birth control — no forgetting, no excuses. Otherwise, you’re simply an open invitation for a baby to settle in your uterus or possible STIs he may carry to fester.
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I’ve learned something new today. According to Princeton University’s The Emergency Contraception Website, some brands of birth control pills can be used as the morning after pill if you increase the daily dosage. Above is a table of the supported brands (2 of which are generics I’ve taken). This can prove very helpful information if you’re stranded and can’t get to the pharmacy for the regular EC. I don’t know their rate of effectiveness, but with EC, the sooner you take the pills, the better.
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