Female, straight, 22.

Hi! I enjoy reading your posts! I too am from the great state of Texas and identify with some of the feminist ideals you write about. Most times it just confirms some of my own thoughts, which is refreshing! Anyhoo, I just started law school this academic year and as a result, have NO SEX LIFE. It's been a huge change for me because I've always been active and actually started at a very young age, which I regret, but this change has made me realize something: that I only know how to have sex with men and DO NOT know how to date them. Until I figure that out I've been debating on whether or not to get a vibrator. I mean, I want to but I'm scared that I will like it way too much and if, for some reason, I get lucky, having sex with a man will never be as good as masturbating with a vibrator. I know it sounds like a silly question, but have you ever heard of women becoming "addicted" to their vibrator and never being able to get the same kind of satisfaction from a man?

Hello, Texan. I’m sorry you’re living an unwanted chaste lifestyle.  I can also empathize. School is time consuming, but this is why people invented vibrators.

If there’s truth in every episode of Sex and the City, then women can get addicted to their bedroom toys. I, however, don’t think it’s true. While the feelings and sensations offered by a vibrator are amazing and often something a partner can’t duplicate, they can’t be compared to being with someone else. At the risk of sounding lovey-dovey, having sex with another human being is special and amazing. There’s the warmth of two bodies, intimacy, kissing, etc. When you’ve finished masturbating with a vibrator, you can’t cuddle with it either.

So I encourage you to buy a sex toy to get you through this dry spell, but don’t get worried of becoming addicted. And when you do find a new sexual partner, they might even want to include your toy during bedroom playtime as well.