So I'm totally open about sex (I love your Tumblr, by the way), and I'm not uncomfortable with it at all. I'm a teenager, and I'm single. So I'm not "sexually active," but I do masturbate. My question is: how can I tell if I've had an orgasm? I do feel really, really good, but there's never an exact moment where I'm like, "Oh, that was it!" I just sort of feel nice the whole time. So what's the deal? Thanks!

If you just “feel nice the whole time,” you’re probably not having an orgasm. I get asked many times how someone can reach orgasm, and unfortunately there isn’t a step-by-step method to follow. I’m not lying when I say everyone is different. We all work differently, and different things turn us on and off. Some ladies like clitoral stimulation, so vaginal penetration, some ass-play, and some a combination. The only thing I can tell you to do is look out for the signs and keep practicing.

Also take into consideration your environment. Orgasm is just as much mental as it is physical. Make sure you are completely comfortable wherever you’re masturbating and not distracted. Go at a pace that works for you, and don’t focus on climaxing. There’s no race and no finish line to cross here. It’s just masturbating, and reaching orgasm isn’t your final grade. In time you’ll come to realize what works best for you.