Male - Straight - Midwest

I've been dating on and off for a few years. Between grabbing drinks or having dinner, most of my dates end in a sexual experience. I'm not disappointed in this, but sometimes I want to just have a good time and get to know somebody. The sexual tension in most cases overwhelms the date and it's inevitable. What strategies or tips do you have for releasing sexual tension without diving in?

“Men are so made that they can resist sound argument, and yet yield to a glance.”
— Honoré de Balzac

While you might be tempted to have a roll in the hay immediately, don’t. Resist resist resist! I know it can be hard, but think about it; you say you want to get to know a girl first before becoming intimate. Then stop being self-destructive and succumbing to temptation. I know, it’s weird for a girl who writes a blog about sex to tell someone to resist sex, but there are times when abcense makes the heart grow fonder. Listen to Balzac, and put off the sex momentarily.

And chock the chicken/masturbate before these dates/get-togethers. That’s a word of advice from the not-so-literary classic There’s Something About Mary.