I'm a 19 year old virgin and I still cant have a full orgasm. i know thats phrased weird but i'll explain. Whenever I'm with my boyfriend, we usually do dry humping or foreplay and no matter how long or fast we go, i still cant cum. I've never actually felt what that is like. i always get so exhausted or we have to stop suddenly cuz we hear my parents upstairs. we usually go back to it after we check, but its still the same problem. Even when I'm masturbating, I get exhausted. i'm considering having my first time with him soon. So my question is this, in order for me to orgasm, should I have sex or is there something else i can do help myself out with and without my boyfriend?

Orgasms shouldn’t be the focus of sex. Sure, they are a nice end result, but if you worry too much about achieving it, then you’ll never really enjoy yourself. If you want to have sex with your boyfriend and are prepared to practice it safely, then go ahead. You might come, and you might not. You might bleed and be in pain since it’s your first time, and you might not also. It doesn’t really matter as long as you’re comfortable with what you’re doing.

In the meantime, I would suggest practicing solo to find out what really makes you come. Your boyfriend will not know automatically, and it’s up to you to teach him. If you get exhausted while masturbating, keep trying and don’t stop. You might actually be on the verge of coming and not even realize it. Us ladies do all kinds of funny things when we’re about to come. We’ll get numb in our toes, feel like we have to pee, start breathing heavily, etc. Perhaps this exhaustion is your body telling you the O is on its way.