Girls hating other girls

Ok, so this post has nothing to do with sex but instead is about the sexes.

Today I was with a friend of a friend waiting to see the movie Precious. We were discussing the Oscars and Mo’Nique’s nomination for Best Supporting Actress. This friend (who is a girl) stated, “She better shave her legs for the Oscars because she was disgusting at the Golden Globes.”

Seriously, disgusting? I would hardly call her hairy legs disgusting. We may be girls, but we are mammals. We have hair! Not only that, but we have hair growing in all kinds of places and in every which way and in every shape, style, and texture. Aside from electrolysis, there is no permanent solution to making our body hair disappear all together like airbrushed Playboy models.

I applaud Mo’Nique’s guts and resistance of Hollywood standards by raising her long gown to show off her leg stubble to the photographers. And let’s face it, Mo’Nique is not the picture-perfect image of glamorous Hollywood starlet. She’s already broken boundaries and stood out proudly as a thick female in an industry of waifs.

To me, this friend’s statement clearly shows how easily us girls can hate on other girls — just like Mean Girls. I know this might sound a bit self-righteous of me, but it is what it is. I admit, it I do this instant judging too. In fact, this post has me judging my friend’s friend based on her statement. All of us girls are guilty of this hatred. However, I think once we realize when we’re judging, we can realize our mistakes and stop being Mean Girls. After all, nobody wants to be a member of The Plastics doing that dance every Christmas to “Jingle Bell Rock.”

Another example of girls hating on girls: This same girl also mentioned how Abbie Cornish broke up Ryan Phillippe’s marriage — automatically concluding they were having an affair. I told her to not assume that was the case, to which she replied, “Well they started dating pretty soon after he got divorced.”

Oh my my my, this really bugs me. As woman, why do we instantly judge and condem “the other woman,” even if we don’t have proof she is the other woman? It takes two people to cheat! Hardly anyone blames the man — we just focus on the woman, the “home-wrecker.” Relationships are already complicated enough. We shouldn’t be sticking our noses in other people’s business and calling names and pointing fingers on a private matter that really isn’t our business.

So girls, let’s make a pact. Let’s stopping being mean to each other. Let’s try our best not to judge too harshly. Let’s not describe other girls as sluts or home-wreckers. Let’s not call another woman disgusting simply because she rejects gender stereotypes and typical roles. In the end, it will all benefit us.

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