I just found your blog, I could have used all of this years ago when the TX school system WASN'T teaching me about sex (I'm sure you know how that is).

I'm a lesbian, 18, and I live in a pretty small city. I've never had sex. I would like to be sexually active (with the right woman) and I enjoy (pro-woman) pornography and erotica, but the idea of masturbation doesn't appeal to me, I'd rather have sex. I find nothing inherently wrong with masturbation, I have plenty of friends who do it, but it's just not something that interests me. Is it odd that I want to wait to engage in sexual activity until I have someone?

I used to think the same thing. When I was younger and unaware, I always that of masturbating as settling. Why do that when I can have the real thing? Well, when the real thing wasn’t so easy to get (damn those breakups!), I got horny again and soon realized what I was missing. What really turned me to masturbating though, was vibrators. They can do so much more than a penis, and they come in fun colors. I remember when my first one came in the mail. It was like Christmas in September. I actually just got a new one that is now the favorite in my collection. (Seriously, ladies, get yourself a California Exotics Butterfly Kiss.)

There is nothing wrong or odd with you not being interested in masturbating. You’re young and you still have so much more to discover and understand in your sexually experienced future. I have a feeling you’ll eventually learn to love pleasuring yourself.