Let’s talk about being the deflower-er
Anonymous: Hey! I’m a straight girl, almost 18-
My boyfriend, who’s 20, is a virgin, and I’m not. We both care for each other a great deal and want to have sex, but I’m apprehensive to do so. It seems like a lot of pressure. I know I’m good in bed but this is one thing that’s actually got me nervous. Can you give me any advice on deflowering a dude?
Once again, another answer provided from the male perspective by Mathieu.
Honestly, this is a tricky question, and the answers that you will receive about this topic could be immensely vague or extremely particular. However, I can give you a few tips. First of all, in my own opinion, men are simple. We are creatures with a rudimentary reproductive system that has a pretty primitive drive “thrust”. However, when man typically first has sex, he will be unacclimated to the phenomenal pleasures of having a partner, therefore his primitive drive of “thrust” may very quickly—and often disappointingly—turn into “come”. So honestly, prepare yourself to be a little less than satisfied but to also help your boy regain his composure. Then again, you may be very fortunate and find a guy who is a natural born stallion. (In that case enjoy the ride.) However, if the former allegory does occur: don’t criticize. Just confirm to him that it will be better next time, and then—if you so desire—help get him back “up” to performance level. I wish you the best of luck.
