No matter if you’ve burned it in protest, used it to brandish your bosoms with pride, bemoaned its biting brace, benefited from its enhancing boost, or bought one for a boo, the bra has an interesting biography.
Fun fact: Brassiere was entered into the Oxford English Dictionary in 1911.
(Source: onlinedating.org)
Biden did it Sunday on Meet The Press and now Obama has fallen suit and finally announced his support for gay marriage. Let’s hope these proclamations don’t isolate independent or left-leaning Republican voters come November. While the news inundates us with people being either “extremely for” or “extremely against” gay marriage, I’d like to believe the rest of the country isn’t that polarizing. I’d like to think the anti-gay marriage proponents are just really good at being loud and getting the message across through different platforms. I’d like to think the rest of America isn’t so close-minded.
Fortunately this Gallup Poll survey released yesterday does not make America’s future so grim.
According to them, at least half of Americans are pro gay marriage. Obama would need at least 270 out of 538 electoral votes to win an absolute majority (equaling about 50.1%) and secure the presidency for another 4 years.
Regular readers will know I’m a strong proponent for gay marriage. It’s a basic human right that anyone should be allowed to enter. When opponents talk about the sanctity of marriage, I get so frustrated. It’s okay for Kim Kardashian to get married for 72 days at an average cost of $138,888 per day, but if two people of the same sex want to — blasphemy!
It’s not just the ceremony that’s important too. Being married comes with all kinds of perks, some of which I feel many heterosexual couples fail to recognize. For example, insurance providers would have no choice but to allow gay couples share health plans through their employers. Visits to the hospital when only “immediate family” is allowed present wouldn’t be an issue. Tax breaks! Inheritance tax! Estate planning! I could go on and on. Hell, allowing gays to marry and divorce (another perk) provides income for the economy! Perhaps it can even be labeled as a “job creator”.
So if you’re on the fence with the issue, ask yourself, “Would I really lose anything if marriage equality was passed?” If you’re still unsure, think of me and the millions of other children in this country who are from same-sex households. Remember how families like ours come in all shapes and sizes. Think about how much easier life would have been for my sister and me had our mom been able to do something so simple like put us and herself on her partner’s employer health insurance plan. If you’re still unsure, then watch Zach Wahls’ address to Iowa legislatures.
And if that still doesn’t change your mind, then listen to Grover and Jesse.
Contribute to the campaign if you can too.
Anonymous: i am 14 and have had a problem since i was twelve that has slowly gotten worse. It started before i even started my period which i did when i was twelve. My labia minora i presume is larger on the right side, the skin is stretched and looks gross, it extends from my clit to my inner wall. I have a boyfriend and am self conscious to let him touch me for fear he’ll question it. I don’t know what it is, doesn’t hurt, just looks and feels wrong.
Friends, remember Mathieu? He’s back to help me with your sexual woes.
Hey kiddo, I’m going to tell you something that you really need to understand: Men do not care about the appearance of your labia. I say this because when it comes down to brass tacks, men want the whole package. They want the woman as a complete person. Sex isn’t just about the vagina, it’s about eyes, and legs, and hair pulling, and biting and so, so much more. Therefore sex is, or should be, much less about specific body parts and more about enjoying the “time” you’re spending with the other person. Should your boyfriend judge you because of this situation, I would consider reconsidering your choice of boy.
This is Christine adding my own two cents. As many dedicated readers know, I have a fascination and border-line obsession with labia and women’s perceptions. I’ve always been a proponent of loving your own lovely lady lips, but I understand where you’re coming from as far as insecurity goes. I just want you to remember that you are young, and your body is still changing. While there really is no normal when it comes to labia size, the description of your lip placement and area covered is perfectly natural. I’m confident your boyfriend will not be inspecting you up and down and comparing your lip length. He’ll be too preoccupied with other things related to your body.
However, I do recommend you watch The Perfect Vagina. I love this documentary, and they really get down to the nitty gritty of labia and vulva variances. Keep in mind it is very NSFW. They show everything including a labiaplasty (labia reduction) surgery. However, I think it will really help. If you’d like an illustrated comparison too, check out the infamous and lovely Betty Dodson sketches.
Don’t forget to follow Mathieu’s tumblr and me on Twitter.
[video]
![magdolenelives:
Thou shalt not mess with a woman’s reproductive rights.” — Fallopians 4:28[Courtesy Arizona Women Unite Rally April 28th, 2012]](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3dyfzz4sd1qbjc2ao1_500.jpg)
Thou shalt not mess with a woman’s reproductive rights.” — Fallopians 4:28
[Courtesy Arizona Women Unite Rally April 28th, 2012]
(via fuckyeahfeminists)
A Ban on Kissing? The Right-Wing Sexual Fears in New Abstinence Bills
Attempts to ban talk of birth control and homosexuality from classrooms reveal conservatives’ deepest sexual fears.
Imagine a high school teacher having to separate a smooching pair outside the classroom door to protect herself from being sued for condoning “gateway sexual activity.” Envision a sex education class where the mention of homosexuality is forbidden by law and discussion of contraception, or even puberty, is deemed unnecessary.
Oh, the attempted barriers at sex education really make me giggle at times. A recently passed Tennessee bill wants sex education to be abstinence only, but the lawmakers also wants parents to have the option to “seek damages in court if a teacher ‘promotes gateway sexual activity’ to their child.” Critics believe this claus is too ambiguous and can result in detrimental consequences for the teachers. They wonder if parents could consider simple things holding hands and kissing as a “gateway sexual activity.” If so, teachers will constantly be threatened by potential legal allegations.
What will the conservatives think of next?
Photo source: Housing Works
[video]
Anonymous: I’ve been following your blog for quite some time, and I love the advice you give out. I have my own question this time. Almost every time I have sex with my partner, I ejaculate. Not blasting out, but it sort of trickles out of me and goesEVERYWHERE. I find it to be annoying and uncomfortable. Usually when I masturbate on my own, it doesn’t happen, but tonight I got myself off with a vibrator and surprise! Got my mattress wet! Advice on how to stop it or reduce the amount? cisF/straight/21
Oh, Anonymous, why would you want it to stop? You’re probably experiencing a g-spot orgasm — what some consider to be the holiest of orgasms. I don’t know of any way to stop it, and I suspect there probably isn’t one. However, you can take certain preventative measures in order to ensure easy clean up. Lie a towel (or two) down on the bed before you have sex so it can asbord the liquid rather than your sheets. A thick blanket will work just as well too.
And while we’re on the subject, let’s talk about the science behind female ejaculate. About 40% of females/uterus owners have the ability to ejaculate. Not many researchers have looked into the biology behind it, but according to one of my books, Skene’s glands are most likely the manufacturers of the fluid. When a woman becomes aroused and orgasms, she can ejaculate anywhere from a small amount to a cup of this fluid through her urethra. The fluid is not pee, but is actually a mixture of proteins and sugars similar to male ejaculate (minus the sperm). Other researchers believe it only happens as a result of a g-spot orgasm.
Shameless self-promotion: Don’t forget I’m on Twitter now @thisthingblows.
(Source: its-just-sex.net)
#SEXYTIMES
RESEARCH ALL THE SEXYTIMES!
I’m glad she and her husband enjoyed researching all the sexytimes, but I still don’t think I’m ready to tackle the mommy porn.
Anonymous asked: Female, straight - How can I get free birth control?
Pray that this War on Women ends in your favor, the legislature finally stops bickering about allowing women free access to birth control, and Planned Parenthood continues to receive its funding.
Or you can just get free condoms from a number of HIV testing clinics and student health centers.
I’ve been on a Sailor Moon kick and have been reliving my middle/high school years. Yes, I might be a nerd, but wasn’t Haruka/Sailor Uranus ahead of her time?
Helpful tip: Read this from right to left.
(Source: missdream.org)
Anonymous: female/straight, what’s the best way to shave/wax/otherwise manage a lady bush?
I get this question a lot, and I’ve finally decided to tackle it. Keep in mind my response may be a bit long, but that’s because there’s so much to talk about. These are also my opinions, and some methods might not be best for others. Here we go.
Waxing — By far, waxing is the best method for hair management. Not only does it last a longer time than shaving, but you’re left with a nice smooth surface. It’s also been reported your hair grows back thinner and sometimes disappears all together. Now, I won’t lie — it is painful. You’ve got a warm strip of muslin pulling your hair from the root, and afterwards, your outer labia are a bit tender and red. The good news is the waxing process lasts less than 5 minutes. You’re done rather quickly, and then you can go and carry on with your day. However, it does end up being a bit costly. Most salons charge upwards from $30 and even more for a Brazilian style plus tip. You also need to wait for your hair to grow at least 1/4” long, so the in between time can be a little discouraging if you want to remain hairless at all times.
Electric razor — There are numerous pubic hair trimmers on the market. They come with adjustments so you can control the length of your hair if you don’t want yours to be too short. In all actuality, the shavers are just beard trimmers too, so you can buy one of those if you’d like. Personally, I like the Cleancut PS335 T-Shape Personal Shaver. It gets really close to the hair and leaves a very smooth service. Little tip before you shave with an electric razor — sprinkle baby powder over your lips to make the razor glide smoothly.
Shaving — By far, shaving is the most popular method, but it might not be the most gentle. If you do decide to shave, it is imperative you use a clean and fresh razor and lots of shaving cream in order to prevent razor burn. However, I’m going to share with you a lovely tip that is much more pleasant on your parts.
Through personal experience, I’ve found the best way to shave is using hair conditioner. It’s often been said it’s a good liquid to use when shaving legs, and pubes are no exception. Trust me, after you use hair conditioner and shave correctly, you will be silky smooth without razor burn. Here’s how you do it. As always, use a clean and fresh razor. Lather the hair conditioner on generously and reapply if necessary. Shave with the growth direction of your hair and go about it slowly — no rushing! Another good thing about shaving with conditioner verus shaving cream is you can see your hair too. This makes shaving so much easier because you won’t be going at it blindly. After you are finished, lather 100% pure shea butter (my fav) or pure coconut oil (which can also be a natural lube). Keep applying lotion everyday to keep your outer lips nice and smooth and prevent razor bumps. Don’t skimp on the amount of lotion either.
And there you have it. Good luck, my friends, and always loofa your pubic area when you shower. This will prevent ingrown hairs which are not fun.
Side note: Even though I signed up years ago, I’m trying this whole Twitter thing. Don’t know if I’ll keep up with it, but eh. You never know. You can find me at @thisthingblows.
(Source: its-just-sex.net)
[video]
[video]